You dare call me an auntie, a cougar, a lioness, a puma, a MILF an AILF or what you may! What you fail to realize and accept is that most men would like nothing more than to be with ME, an older woman! No disrespect intended to the beautiful, young ladies that pride themselves to be a great catch for any man. I’m not out there prowling for young men by any means…they seek me out, not I them! You and most of society will have to accept the reality that younger men dating an older woman is now more of a norm than not. Younger men nowadays are carrying their enamored fantasies of being with an older woman out of their minds and making them a reality! The most prominent of the younger man/older woman couple is no doubt Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. These besharam Gorey you say….on contraire, hold on to your cup of chai ya’ll…Saif Ali Khan and his ex-wife and Bolly actress Amrita Singh had a 12 year age difference .. Yes, she was 12 years older than Saif. Another ex-hot couple on the Bolly cinema scene: 36 year old Priety Zinta was 7 years older than her hunky ex-Dhoni ,and even the royal family of Bollywood have fallen in suit to the older woman phenomenon with Aishwarya Rai being 3 years older than Abhishek Bachchan!
Why, Why, Why cries the broken hearted young lady who sees her love now in the arms of a woman many years older than she and HIM? Why is he with her and not me? Let me count the ways:
1. Independence:
Older women are typically more comfortable being alone as more time has allowed them the chance to know how to get along fine without the man being tied to her apron. In other words, they’re less likely to be clingy or needy.
2. Assertiveness and Sexual experience:
They’re less inclined to play games and are more likely to cut to the chase and be upfront about her feelings or lack thereof. They know about their likes, wants, and desires both in and out of the bedroom.
3. More mature friendships:
Older women are more confident, self-reliant and are often less invested in seeking the approval of their female friends.
4. Less Drama:
Older women are cooler under pressure; they know how to deal with disasters, and they can often handle them on their own whereas the younger women tend to magnify the importance of every little thing. She’s going to have more realistic expectations of the relationship and is less likely to have a princess complex.
5. She values Time:
Equipped with a clear sense of what’s really important in life, older women are more appreciative of the time you spend together.
6. Financial Independence:
She’s more apt to take care of herself and her needs financially and not become the princessey burden on her male counterpart. It’s just a comfort for guys to know they aren’t going to have to pay for every single date over the course of a relationship.
“…younger men appreciate and are attracted to strong, mature women who don’t demand constant attention like girls do” says one pursuer of older women. The bottom line is that in an older woman, there’s a bounce in her step as she walks with the wisdom, confidence, charisma, pride and experience that she earned because of her age. Judge me , hate me , snicker behind my back and say all you want; that doesn’t change the fact that the boys the boys ,they love me!
Resources: AskMen.com ABCNews.com
Not all women are like the ‘mature, experienced, unemotional’ traits you just amalgamated into one person. That is probably a dream for most men, but the truth is, women are needy in nature, we all have a drama queen within us and sure, even if we have sexual experience – most of us do pick and choose who we want to sleep with and trust me EMOTIONS always get in the way.
The ‘older woman’ you just described, probably falls into 1% of women who are actually like that.
99% of us are far from being that calm and collected.
Posted by J | September 22, 2011, 12:34 AM